Posts by Victorian sky

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Hi

by UNCLEAR in

this obviously is my first post, i actually feel like i may be sick but i felt compelled to post.

only if to just say hello.. my life has been anything but boring, pioneered for years, brought several family members into "the truth", and find myself unable to have studies anylonger because i feel unsure about the stand i have taken all these years.. i was previously married, my husband left the organization for various reason, we divorced and i recently remarried another brother, he is a wonderful man and husband, i care for him deeply we and had been friends for 15 years.

i also have a son from my first marriage who is 4, he is the love of my life, recently my son had an opertion that could require a blook transfusion and to be honest i could never deny him that.

Victorian sky

Welcome to the board! It took courage to post and talk about how you really feel. I think you'll leave the org when you're ready, not a minute before. I look back now and I wonder why the hec it took me so long to leave. (I read Crisis of Conscience in 2001, I knew it wasn't 'the truth' but it still took me 2 more years to stop going to meetings all together) I know that fear kept me in. Who in their right mind wants to lose their family and the only 'friends' they've ever known? Who wants to leave their comfort zone when the unknown is so uncertain? And I thought leaving the org would be the same as leaving God and I didn't want to do that. Well I'm a Christian now and the cool thing is, I don't have all the answers, there are things I don't understand and that's just fine. I love this forum and the people on it even though we don't always agree and that's okay too. As far as who has the ultimate truth? Jesus does and he loves you. Hang in there - V Sky.

Looking Glass - my heart goes out to you about your gran.

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ANGRY WANGRY!!

by lowden in

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friends

how have you dealt, or how are you dealing with the anger, frustration and rightful indignation that you may feel towards the wts or even god for the way it so negatively impacted on your life?

Victorian sky

It takes time. As you can see you're not alone. For about 6 months I was pissed off at God, the WTS and all religions. I was angry at my mom for raising me a JW, was furious with myself for believing it as long as I did. But now, at the end of the day, I'm so grateful to be free, talk about anger - we could still be trapped there, I knew so many angry JWs who hated their life and didn't know why. This forum, these great people who post here, helped me so much to move on with my life. Venting to people who get it and writing down what I felt in a journal really helped. I also became a Christian and prayer gives me peace and joy. I read a quote about a man who endured abuse at the hands of his father and it applies to us: "Once a bad thing has happened to you, you can be completely ashamed of it and it can destroy you, or you can take the power out of it by using it as a teaching tool to help others." You can turn that anger into something good. - God Bless, V-Sky

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The Best Revenge...

by CountryGuy in

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is living a good life..... i'm not sure who said it, but is it ever so true.

the jws think that once we leave the "protection" of the wts, we are doomed to wander through life aimlessly and without purpose.

and, maybe i did that for a little while.. but, i have been on a mission to take my life back from those rotten sobs.

Victorian sky

Good for you! You took your life back, just let your light shine and your former 'friends' may wonder, what's your secret?

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upstate NewYork, anyone?

by annalice in

hey everyone .

just wondering , anyone here from upstate new york?

Victorian sky

Lived in Millbrook, New York, it's near Poughkeepsie. I absolutely loved the Hudson Valley, would have stayed but it was too far away from family. Where are you from?

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"Baby, I think its time we move in 2gethor" HELP!!!!!

by stillAwitness in

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friends

my boyfriend and i are gettin pretty serious.

before we met he was never in a committed relationship and believed marriage was just a piece of paper that helped during tax season.

then he meets me and suddenly i catch him online looking at rings.

Victorian sky

Please don't move in with him! Get to really know him first as you finish school, if it's true love, he'll still be there, don't let anyone rush you into anything. - All the best!

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I'm back!!!!

by RichieRich in

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friends

hello again from sunny north carolina!!!.

our state lotto started today, and i won 15 dollars, and only bought 1 $1 card.

so whoop whoop for gambling.. i was in miami florida last week for the photoshop world conference, but i also got to tour the everglades, where i took some beautiful pictures.

Victorian sky

Richie, you are fantastic! We missed you. That bit about the child molesters being re-appointed and their records being destroyed was nauseating, thanks for the info, you have guts and courage. God Bless, V-Sky

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I'm back!!!!

by RichieRich in

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friends

hello again from sunny north carolina!!!.

our state lotto started today, and i won 15 dollars, and only bought 1 $1 card.

so whoop whoop for gambling.. i was in miami florida last week for the photoshop world conference, but i also got to tour the everglades, where i took some beautiful pictures.

Victorian sky

dudeeee your killin me. welcome back and i must say ..... yes i know its been said..... ballz of steel dude

MARRIAGE REQUESTS: to help keep Simon's server from crashing due to the weight of my PM inbox, lets forward all marriage proposals and naked pictures to richardivey thethird @ yahoo .com

now thats damn funny. hahahahhahhaha

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I'm new here.

by The in

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hey everyone, as the subject might sugest... im new here!

they say first impressions last and i hope i make.

this a good one.. .

Victorian sky

welcome!

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A JW wants to know where we go when we leave the society

by Madame Quixote in

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i told him about few things we do.

maybe some of you could add to this at: .

http://www.jamaat.net/jforum/viewtopic.php?p=4682#4682 .

Victorian sky

Where do I go?

To Jesus!

Also...fun family time, travel - (try exploring your own state like a tourist, it's a blast), community service, college, the movies and dusting off my ambitions and dreams! When you're free, the sky's the limit.

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Why shouldn't I be a JW?

by AirDuster in

hi, i am brand new to these forums.

i have been reading some stuff for a while from here and other websites.

i feels totally crazy being a member now.

Victorian sky

Hi Airduster, welcome to the board! In answer to your question, for me it was the following:

1) The lack of love - the climate of condemnation, judging, guilt trips and the message - you will die, die, die if you don't do xy&z. I was afraid of Jehovah, I didn't love him and I never thought he loved me, I just wasn't good enough, and where was Jesus in all this? - now I know my God and my Lord, I am approved, loved and they are pleased with me, I never knew that as a JW. Also on the surface there is warmth and love but the second you think, act, speak or do anything contrary to their belief, make no mistake, you will be cut off, that happened to my mom and It hurt me to see the way she was treated like dirt by family and 'The friends'. And years later, it happened to me.

2) I was miserable! - For being part of the happiest people on earth, I was so sad, trying hard to do everything they asked and it was never enough. I saw the faith and joy of Christians and I began to wonder, how was that possible without the 'truth'?

3) My doubts - I just woke up one morning and had to face them. At the time, I was a reg.pioneer and scared to death. I never read anything 'apostate' or spoke to a former JW. I just knew in my heart and soul that I didn't believe that God would wipe out the majority of the earth's population just so that I and a few others could live in paradise. I hated the Armageddon pictures. I hated the gleeful way 'The friends' would watch the news and hope for the end. I thought, I'm not hoping for my non-JW family to die, I don't want the 'worldly' kids next door to die. It took me 5 years to finally leave because I didn't want to face the fact that it never was, never will be 'The truth'.

I wish you happiness and peace, God Bless - V Sky